EFFECTS OF ANGER (2)

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Wisdom Nugget :"And as soon as he came near the camp and saw the calf and the dancing, Moses' anger burned hot, and he threw the tablets out of his hands and broke them at the foot of the mountain."

We have earlier said that Anger is one word short of Danger; and one of the Dangers of uncontrolled anger is the words we speak in the heat of provocation. Words are spirit, and either life or death. Now spirits either help or they haunt you (depending on whether they are good or bad spirits) and every time we speak we release spirits into people's lives and years after we have spoken, those words are still helping them or haunting them, and some words never go away until the people die. This wise saying spells out the Rule of the game: "...let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.

A furious father in a moment of rage and anger called Jude, his four-year-old son, a goat because the boy had misbehaved. This name-calling continued several times, for about six months. Then, one morning a visitor knocked on their door and was welcomed by the young Jude. “Hello my boy, what’s your name?” asked the visitor.
“My name is Goat,” answered Jude.
“No, no, no, your name is not goat,” protested the visitor. Just then Jude’s father came into the living room.
“Daddy I told just told Uncle that my name is Goat but he wouldn’t believe me,” Jude told his father with a glee.
“Shut up! How can you say that your name is goat?” queried his father.
“But father isn’t that the name you've always called me in this house?” Jude replied…

Today, ask yourself, as a friend, a teacher, a parent, a colleague, an elder brother or a spouse,how have your angry words affected people? Do your words haunt them like "Dracula", or are they motivational like "Yes you can"?

Donald Trump once told the very touching story of a young boy he met on a Prison visit who said to him "I am what my father always said I would be. Every time my father was angry with me he always said " John you will end up in prison, and today I have." And feeling very sorry for him Donald Trump said to the boy, "Interestingly, I too am what my father always used to say I would become. My father always used to say to me "Son you will be a millionaire" and today I am."
Getting angry can sometimes be like leaping into a wonderfully responsive sports car, gunning the motor, taking off at high speed and then discovering the brakes are out of order.

You may feel very much justified in your outbursts of anger, but be careful what you break (say). While you may obtain forgiveness, a person's life may never be the same again.

EFFECTS OF ANGER

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Wisdom Nuggets: "Do not be quick in spirit to be angry or vexed, for anger and vexation lodge in the bosom of fools."

Everyone gets angry. But according to Dr. Don Colbert, M.D., author of Deadly Emotions, anger can profoundly damages your health. “Depression, anger, guilt, condemnation, low self-esteem…these are only a few of the lethal toxins…,” Dr. Colbert warns. He supports these claims with scientific evidence about the effects of anger on the physiological aspect.
Simply put, the aftereffects of anger triggers a biologically-embedded “fight-or-flight” response. In ancient times, when human beings faced physical threats like animal predators, the fight-or-flight response saved our lives by pumping our bodies with hormones and chemicals necessary to fuel intense physical action. However, in modern life, that response is unnecessary 99% of the time.

Worse yet, the fight-or-flight response is actually killing us, according to Peter McWilliams, author of You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought: A Book for People with Any Life-Threatening Illness—Including Life.
When anger kicks in, your body readies itself to respond to a perceived threat. Your muscles tense…your digestive processes stop…and certain brain centers start firing in ways that alter your brain chemistry.These functions reflect our genetically-coded response to danger. Unfortunately, nowadays, these strong chemical reactions are inappropriately triggered by minor annoyances—like getting cut off in traffic or being spoken to unkindly. For modern humans, even thinking about a stressful situation can spark a full-blown “fight-or-flight” response. In fight-or-flight, your body’s resources mobilize for immediate physical action. Any bodily function not directly related to fighting or fleeing is put on hold, including:Digestion, Assimilation, Cell production, Body maintenance, Circulation (except to the skeletal muscles involved in the fight-or-flight process), Healing, Immunological defenses.
The health consequences of continual fight-or-flight response can be severe. According to Dr. Mercola (a highly regarded and widely published natural health practitioner) our automatic anger response leads to health problems like:
Headaches, Digestive imbalances, Insomnia, Anxiety, Depression, High blood pressure, Skin problems, including eczema, Heart attack, and even Stroke.

Is Your Anger Putting You At Risk for Heart Problems?
Unresolved anger is bad for your health:  Angry cynical people die young. Research shows that men who score high for hostility on standard tests are four times more likely to die prematurely than men whose scores are low.
Late one summer evening in Broken Bow, Nebraska, a weary truck driver pulled his rig into an all-night truck stop. The waitress had just served him when three tough-looking, leather-jacketed motorcyclists - of the Hell’s Angels type - decided to give him a hard time. Not only did they verbally abuse him, one grabbed the hamburger off his plate, another took a handful of his french fries, and the third picked up his coffee and began to drink it. How would you respond? Well, this trucker did not respond as one might expect. Instead, he calmly rose, picked up his check, walked to the front of the room, put the check and his money on the cash register, and went out the door. The waitress followed him to put the money in the till and stood watching out the door as the big truck drove away into the night. When she returned, one of the bikers said to her, "Well, he’s not much of a man, is he?" She replied, "I don’t know about that, but he sure ain’t much of a truck driver. He just ran over three motorcycles on his way out of the parking lot."

Our Wisdom Nugget says "for anger and vexation lodge in the bosom of fools." Remember we have said before you have a right to be angry, but to allow anger to "lodge" or "rest" in your heart is foolish. Remember the old chinese proverb : "You cannot stop a bird from flying over your head but you must stop it from nesting on your head".

That is why Mark Twain said: "Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured."

MANAGING ANGER

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Wisdom Nugget: "Sensible people control their temper;they earn respect by overlooking wrongs."

Anger is not a cause. In effect, ask yourself, “why am I angry?” to get to the root of the matter. We often get angry:
(1) When we are hurt, (2) When we feel frustrated and
(3) When we feel threatened.

I learned one lesson from a pussy cat . When you back an animal into a corner, it comes out fighting. People can be the same way. Gentle teasing, personal insecurities, motives-questioned make us feel threatened and consequently, drive us mad. Anger is a choice, we get angry because we choose to. .

The third principle for taming temper is…

3. Resolve your anger quickly. Admit it, Understand it, Deal with it! “do not let the sun go down on your wrath”. That doesn’t mean people in Nome Alaska can be mad for six months straight every year with out dealing with their issues. Don’t finish the day with anger unresolved. Anger metamorphoses into resentment which cannot be justified. Do not prolong or put off settling the score. Do it quickly. Resolve each day’s anger by the end of the day, this is one great principle that should be practiced in every marriage.

**Principle: Never go to bed angry. Don’t cultivate a grudge!

Like the guy who said, “Do you wake up grouchy in the morning?” and another guy replied, “No, I usually let her sleep.”

4. Control your anger
Our hand is on the control knob. Uncontrolled anger can and will ruin your life. Do not let your anger gain control over your thoughts and actions. Guard your heart and thoughts diligently.

HOW DO YOU CONTROL YOUR ANGER?

Just as you learned to cross a street, remember these three words next time you start getting angry.

1.    STOP, and think before you speak. When we get mad we say things we cannot take back. Unringing a bell? "A closed mouth knows no foot. A sharp tongue is the quickest way to cut your own throat. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger".

2.    LOOK at the situation from another point of view. Anger is temporary insanity. More often than not, overlooking wrongs can save one a great deal of trouble in the end. To forbear is divine. "A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult".

3.    LISTEN to people with whom you're angry. Most of the time, the people we’re dealing with are hurting and don’t know how to express it. An angry person is a hurting person. Hear each other out.  "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry for man’s anger does not bring about a righteous life." This sums everything up: Man’s anger fails to fix anything.

In a 1994 article, "Wars’ Lethal Leftovers Threaten Europeans," Associated Press reporter Christopher Burns writes: "The bombs of World War II are still killing in Europe. They turn up--and sometimes, blow up--at construction sites, in fishing nets, or on beaches fifty years after the guns fell silent. " Hundreds of tons of explosives are recovered every year in France alone. Thirteen old bombs exploded in France in 1993, killing twelve people and wounding eleven the Interior Ministry said. "Unexploded bombs become more dangerous with time. With the corrosion inside, the weapon becomes more unstable, as the detonator can be exposed."

What is true of lingering bombs is also true of an untamed temper - it can explode when we least expect it. And there will be casualties.

How can I tame my temper?
By admitting my anger, understanding how it works, resolving issues quickly and exercising control.

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

DEMYSTIFYING LOVE  (12)

Wisdom Nugget : Ephesians 4:26-27 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. 

Have you noticed that people are more and more angry then ever before? What is even worse is the things that get us angry,