ANGER MANAGEMENT

DEMYSTIFYING LOVE  (12)

Wisdom Nugget : Ephesians 4:26-27 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. 

Have you noticed that people are more and more angry then ever before? What is even worse is the things that get us angry,

are they really worth being upset over? Our culture has lost its sense of what is really a crisis. Getting cut off in traffic, kids not cleaning off their plate, missing your favorite TV program are not reasons for a nuclear explosion. I learned that  in Denver at 5280’: Water boils at 100 at sea level, but the higher your altitude the longer it takes to boil. Lesson : “A small pot boils fastest and a small  brain gets mad the quickest.” So as we continue our discussion on Anger Management...

3. Admit you are angry 

If you are so mad and boiling with anger that you feel like erupting like a volcano, you are hurting yourself living in denial

We love to deny we’re angry because we feel guilty about it or we’re afraid of what we might do if we admitted to being angry

“I am not yelling! I am not angry,” veins popping out all over. 

But right diagnosis is the first step towards treating any ailment. To admit is to be open to Gods help and grace.

Abe Lemmons was head basketball coach at the University of Texas for years. Asked if he was bitter at Texas Athletic Director Deloss Dodds who fired him as the Longhorn’s basketball coach, he replied, "Not at all, but I plan to buy a glass-bottomed car so I can watch the look on his face when I run over him."

4. Understand your anger “…and do not sin”

Understand there’ s a difference between sinful and legitimate anger.

Between helpful/hurtful, appropriate and inappropriate anger.

What deterimines if your anger is sinful is why you’re angry and what you do with those feelings…

Aristotle, “Anyone can become angry, but to angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way – that is not easy.”

Anger is not a cause, an effect, ask yourself “why am I angry?” to get to the root of the matter. We get angry for three reasons.

1.We are hurt. Emotional or physical can cause feeling of anger (Ask your self, “Am I hurt?”). Or something triggers the memory of past emotional hurt, anger.

I’ve discovered that an easily angered person has unresolved hurt. Sometimes our anger is vented on people we love even though they are not the reason (Man-wife-kid-dog-cat). If you are the object of anger, realize there is something deeper.

2.We are frustrated. Sometimes nothing goes as planned. Traffic delays us, people fail us, things break on us, we get ticked. Long lines at grocery store, trainees at the counter, kids crying. It is easy to get frustrated. But ask yourself two Questions.

**Would getting angry change the situation? If you can’t change the situation, why get angry about it. Either fix it or forget it. Remember, When you lose your temper, you ALWAYS lose. Will Rogers  said. “Whenever you fly into a rage, you seldom make a safe landing.”

I read the story of an airline passenger that was very rude and insolent  to the young officer that checked in his luggage. In anger he shouted at the officer so loud that every passenger on the queue could not but marvel at the calm, composed and polite attitude of the young officer who never responded. So impressed, an observer, after the departure of the angry man, walked up to the officer to congratulate him for such rare  behavior  and composure. To which he replied, "Oh is it that man, don't worry about him. He just boarded his flight to New York but I made sure his luggage is going to Tokyo".

Remember Proverbs 16:32  says "Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty,and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city." (To be continued)

Let us pray, Father I receive grace to manage my emotions and be slow to anger in Jesus name. Amen. Bless a friend 2day with W4W invite to follow me on Facebook @ Edwin Biayeibo II or BB @ PIN:281BB010 or on twitter @wisdom4winning1