What Unforgiveness Does

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Wisdom Nugget : "...if you forgive others for the wrongs they do to you, then you...will also (be) forgiven your wrongs. But if you don’t forgive others, you will not (be) forgiven the wrongs you do.

One very interesting fact of life is this: no matter your status, you will be liable to hurt (pain). I used to think as a child that when I grew up and became really big, no one would have the guts to hurt me
Later, I came to realize that the most attacked and criticized people in the world were very influential folks such as presidents, political leaders etc.

So let's begin with the sayings "You can't escape being hurt by people"; and "the higher you go, the hotter it becomes." If any President decides to take personal the number of critics that attack them all across the media on a daily basis, they would go paranoid, loose their minds and abandon the business of government. To concentrate on your opposition is to loose your position. So get ready as the tree, if you don't want people to throw stones at you, then don't bear fruits. And if you don't want to get hurt, be a nobody. But even then, someone is going to ask you soon, "how come you are a nobody when all your mates are somebody?"

If great leaders often get criticized, you will. So for your own physical, emotional and spiritual well-being learn the art of forgiveness and live your life to the full (but be purposeful and fulfilled).
Forgiveness: what does it mean?

Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might leave an indelible scar that'll last the rest of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive sides of life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act.

Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.

What are the benefits of forgiving someone?

According to Mayo Clinic, letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. Forgiveness can lead to: healthier relationships, greater spiritual and psychological well-being, less anxiety, stress and hostility. It also helps to lower blood pressure and to reduce symptoms of depression and to lower risks of alcohol and substance abuse.

What are the effects of holding a grudge?

If you're unforgiving, you might pay the price repeatedly by dragging anger and bitterness on your life's journey including new relationships. Your life might become so wrapped up in past injustices that you rob yourself of current pleasures.

You might become depressed or anxious. You might feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your conscience. You might lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others. Finally, you expose yourself to illnesses as cancer, tumors, stroke and other deadly (mostly heart-related) diseases.

There was a garden party for the women’s auxiliary, under an old oak, in a church lawn. Shortly before the party began, Mrs. Preacher discovered she'd left Sister Hissyfit off the invitation list.
The parson called the dear sister and begged forgiveness. "I’m so sorry we didn’t catch this sooner, Mrs. Hissyfit, won’t you please come to the garden party?" pled the pastor.
"Beggin’ won’t help now, Preacher," said the offended Mrs. H., I’ve already prayed for rain